Monday, 27 November 2017

#Ageing - a philosophy - "managed decline" !

Cycling along the sea wall this morning in the wind and rain I started thinking about a couple of conversations I have had recently about getting older. Ageing and the issues surrounding it is something people can evidently struggle with. Here are some observations and my take which I shall grandly describe as my philosophy - ha!

The other day I heard an account of someone aged in his eighties who could not or would not accept that gradually the ageing process would take its toll on his body. Consequently he is constantly going to his doctor complaining of aches and pains and getting downbeat and depressed about it. He has been assured but will not accept there is nothing really wrong as such but is part of ageing. (natures natural process in action which is of course fundamentally irreversible and inevitable.)

The other recent conversation that came to mind was with someone of around about my age who saw me out jogging and suggested I must be mad - at your age! Broadly he sees 60 as past it - as a time (as a justification maybe) to (it seems to me) "throw in the towel". He more or less said - be sensible - accept you are "old" and live accordingly.

A quick digression (but some relevance I hope). A while back I visited the extensive and Grade 1 listed Highgate Cemetery in North London. It is a fascinating place and I wrote a blog about it. In a nutshell it was established in 1839 as a "business". There are acres of tombs and graves - many in elaborate gothic style and a mass of woodlands and paths. Our guide explained the Cemetery had become disused and badly overgrown until rescued by a trust in 1975. The trust policy is "managed decline" and this term stuck in my head. He explained the trustees had decided it was neither practical or probably desirable to try and bring Highgate back to pristine newness. They accepted stonework will inevitably deteriorate over time and ground would become uneven through subsidence and tree root activity. At the same time the trustees understood there were plenty of things they could do to manage the site better (particularly - maintain paths and clear dead trees and undergrowth) in order to prolong its life and allow people to enjoy it for what it is. I refer to Highgate because it encapsulates my philosophy on ageing - "managed decline" - ha! - a big smile.

My "managed decline". I will explain.

First of all and fundamentally I accept the ageing process (decline) is inevitable. As it is a natural phenomenon I think it is best to embrace it - to reconcile yourself too it - enjoy the opportunities it offers and not try and deny it. Losing ones youthful vitality is of course a loss but you cannot stem the tide and I think some people tie themselves in knots trying. Facelifts, hair transplants, the oldest swinger in town! (oldest swinger in town before swinger got its modern day connotation and just meant someone keen on parties and dancing - see Fred Wedlock You Tube) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NZ3YrV-k4lw&list=RDNZ3YrV-k4lw&t=284

At the same time there is no need to give up because you have gone through some paper age threshold. I accept there are things it would be sensible not to try and do now (play contact sport for instance) but at the same time I can still be active and I don't have to be weighed down emotionally. I expect that gradually over time things will get slower - recovery will take longer - levels might diminish but as long as I still enjoy them and as long as they continue to give me a sense of achievement I shall keep doing them. You have to keep battling - surely! It is too easy to make excuses for not putting the effort in or having fun.

So my philosophy - I have to accept and embrace the natural process because I am a realist but at the same time I want to look forward to and enjoy the time I have because I am an optimist. To do so it makes sense to "manage" the inevitable decline (although maybe I need a word other than decline because it does sounds a bit gloomy and negative) - listen to my body - make the odd adjustment to my life style and expectations as deemed necessary and realistic but at the same time to keep doing the things I enjoy. There is no need or justification to give up and rush to the rocking chair. Ok my knees get stiff and ache sometimes - all my kids are faster runners than me now - I am in a lower squash league than I used to be in etc etc - but so what? - the pleasure and purpose comes from doing - from within - from pushing yourself - from putting the effort in. It is still worth it. It is still very much worth getting out there.

As a PS I understand there may be a time when I can't get out there. It is why the time to travel and do relatively energetic things is while you can. When the time comes when I can't then there will be a lot of memories to draw on in my rocking chair and I have countless interests I currently don't have time for that I will be able to pursue if my head continues to function - ha!

Another PS - I have been subsequently reminded - it is not "managed decline" but "managed decay" from the Trustees of Highgate. Decline - decay - we decline - we decay. I will try and efficiently manage both - ha!

Monday, 20 November 2017

#Gran Canaria a short break "all inclusive" holiday

I am just back from sailing as one of the crew on a 70' yacht from Portsmouth to Gran Canaria. I will report on the actual voyage in my next blog.

This blog mainly covers a week I spent on Gran Canaria after the voyage with my son James and brother Mike who flew out to join me for some rest and recuperation such as it was needed. I did spend some time in the north of the Island at Las Palmas (with my crew mates) - a bit of time on the east coast and then down to the south of the island at Masopolomas for the "all inclusive" week. We also hired a car for a day and got up into the central mountainous area. Gran Canaria is not a big place so I think I had a pretty good look around but at the same time appreciate I only scratched the surface. Here are my thoughts from that :

Gran Canaria is the 3rd largest Canary island. Its population is about 700,000. Like all the Canaries its origin is volcanic. Most of the development and population is found on the coastal belt. The centre of the island is mountainous - up to about 2000 metres. It would be fair to say Gran Canaria is not necessarily a "beautiful" place in a spectacular sense or in a manicured sense and it is often very windy. However it is a real place - as an Island of course dominated by the sea and that sea is the Atlantic Ocean which is formidable. The Islands volcanic history though apparently dead now is evident everywhere in the form of exposed rock - which is not fertile of course - so can appear rather barren or scruffy. The climate of course is determined by its latitude and maritime position and tremendous for winter sun.

A quick word about the people of Grand Canaria - I have travelled quite a bit and it becomes a bit of a cliché to say people are nice - but the Grand Canarians definitely are - exceptionally so I would say. It is essentially a simple place - not overly developed - there is space to move around - but the island has reasonable prosperity too - it is not poor or run down but at the same time not glitzy. Food quality is excellent and reasonably priced - especially fish and vegetables. Ideal! They seem to have a good balance and people appear happy and content.

This blog is essentially a family record and I have used photos taken on my mob as the main focus as you can see.

A quick word about "all inclusive" holidays. In summary - sit by the pool and eat and drink as much as you want! As a concept it is easy to knock - ie for the couch potato! However in my view for a limited time - say max a week they can offer really excellent R & R providing you get some exercise and don't go mad on the "free" food and drink. I swam a lot and ran every morning and the beauty is there is nothing to decide so you can really relax - chat and read etc. We had a really enjoyable time and it is a great way of people watching ha!


On arrival - Las Palmas (capital city) marina and start of the ARC race.






Playa de Las Canteras beach - the best beach in Las Palmas - big surf



Sailors Bay bar - the place to go Las Palmas marina

After leaving the boat I had one night at the Centre of International Windsurfing at Pozo Izquierdo near El Doctoral. A very windy place but a lovely little village - wonderful cheap sea food!









We hired a car and when up into the mountains for the day.




Here are some views of  Roque Nublo at 1811 metres one of the highest points on the island - a very enjoyable 45 minute walk and worth doing.























brother Mike




My turn






Mike and James enjoying "all inclusive" delights
James chilling
James & I dressed for dinner!
An evening out at the Yumbo Centre. Sights to see - ha!
Hard to resist a early afternoon beer or rum!